My Beliefs

I'm not in the mood for clever titles or cute introductions tonight, but I'm also not in the mood to let other motherfuckers break my momentum, so let's go. Post #9 of the 30 day challenge - My Beliefs.

1. I used to believe that there was no point in being mad at people who didn't know why you were mad at them - in other words, if you got an issue with someone, let 'em know. You can't go around expecting everyone to know what you're thinking and feeling. I now believe that there's no point in being mad at someone who's never going to change - in other words, it's not in them to do things differently whether they give a fuck about your issues with them or not. You can't go around expecting everyone to be able to stop doing the things that piss you off.

2. I believe Tyler Perry should humble himself enough to know when his limitations will damage a work, as was the case with For Colored Girls. All that undue praise he got for being involved with Precious got his head gassed up, when, if I've got my facts straight, he deserves accolades for getting it finalized and distributed, not for creating it.  In the hands of a different director, it could have been beautiful. In the hands of a competent director, it would have at least been good enough to handle the drama without turning it into melodrama. I believe that Tyler Perry still has no idea how to successfully turn plays, books, or poems into a movie (or TV show), especially when the work is not his. His tendency to dumb down and/or oversimplify issues he's not equipped to express or understand wavers between annoying and infuriating. It's bad community theatre, which, I guess, should be expected, considering the source.

3. I believe the movie would've been much better had someone capable had just turned the poems into dialogue and monologue. Some parts of the poems worked beautifully, no thanks to Tyler. Most did not and/or were way too damn long and poorly delivered.

4. I believe that the fact that I was distracted by Anika Noni Rose's ass in that dance wrap/sarong she had on before the detective came to the dance studio - despite all that just happened to her character - is proof positive of my points in #2.

5. I believe all good love making starts with a kiss - even better if it's not a kiss on the lips. A soft, barely wet, barely there brush of my lips across the silky, tender skin of the inside of her wrist, already hot with the rush of blood and passion through veins just millimeters deep...That's quickly becoming my favorite.

6. I believe a good lover knows what every inch of you looks like, feels like, smells like, taste like and commits every sensory detail to memory to scheme on new and better ways of bringing you pleasure during daydreams of you.

7. I believe in making reviews and resolutions on birthdays, not on New Year's. If your birthday is on New Year's, I don't know what to tell you.

8. I believe that so many geniuses have also been insane because they realized that dumbasses will always win, due to sheer strength in numbers, and that it's easier to get someone of moderate intelligence to act like a dumbass than a genius. How frustrating to have a mind full of new, beautiful ideas in this world.

9. I believe that hope for the world lies in love, which transcends levels of intelligence and all other barriers.

10. I believe there's a woman out there who I will have the opportunity to love without reservation.


11. I believe we will both be frightened to discover just how deep my capacity for love goes.

12. I believe in not expecting heaven or fearing hell.

13. I believe in God.

14. I believe the ability to adapt is the key to survival in most aspects of life.

15. I believe that good thoughts aren't worth shit without good action.

16. I believe that the belief that being a stud means you have to ape the very worst examples of maleness because this is what will attract the most women (or girls, if you want to be accurate) has been the downfall of way too many bruhs.

17. I believe that a lot of studs are simply not as masculine as they project themselves to be, and therefore mimic macho behavior to cover their soft spots. I believe that the expectation of machismo rather than masculinity from a number of femmes only adds to the issue.

18. I believe that the little bits of machismo in me are soft spots.

19. I believe that lesbians need to stop worrying so much about what heterosexuals are doing and how they're doing it.

20. I believe one of the most useful things I've learned from heterosexuals is to look for the woman who will reach over to unlock your car door, or whatever the equivalent of that will turn out to be in this power door, push button world.

21. I believe I've said enough for one night.